It's not safe. "The One" is so trusting, so understanding, so easy to forgive. . . He doesn't mind that I still talk with "The Other" He doesn't mind that I still invite "The Other" over. He doesn't mind that I still flirt and still feel this sexual tension. "The One" thinks that just because I've stopped things before, that because I've been able to say no so far that I'll always say no. I'm not sure if it's his way of hiding his fear or if he's really just so damn confident that I'll choose him in the end that he has no need to worry. But it's not safe.