It's a little early to be counting chickens and all but I told "The One" about the "I can have my cake and eat it too plan" and he went for it. Like he was totally cool with it. We discussed the ideas of how we would go about communicating about it and what the ground rules are for my relationship with "The Other"

The are:
We can't do anything other than light petting in my house (afterall that's the space I share with "The One".
There are no public displays of affection and we aren't to make it known to anyone (some relatives and friends wouldn't take it very well at all)
I have to wait at least a month to f*ck the guy
to take it as slow as I want

Really not a whole lot of ground rules, but enough to keep things interesting. I've found that now that the rules are set up and I'm allowed to do things light petting is really all I'm interested in. In this case I'm not so interested in eating the cake as just snitching the frosting. I think I'm going to take my Dear sweet time and savor every fingerful of decadent frosting.